BEFORE YOU DREAM OF BECOMING A FIRST LADY

While praying for children, an essential aspect adults do not like to miss is that of career and ambitions. They most of the time pray for them to be medical doctors, professors, lawyers, engineers, presidents and so on. You would rarely hear them pray for a child to become a teacher but that’s not what this article is about. You are likely to have heard an adult pray for a girl to become a first lady. That prayer is in itself not a bad one but when the ambition of a girl is to become a first lady, there’s a fundamental error somewhere. I recently overheard a girl saying she would become a first lady and I was prompted to write this. If it was someone I did not know at all, maybe I could have passed it off as a joke but with the girl in question, I saw it as a serious matter.


Being a first lady in this context is a position occupied by the wife of a head of state or chief executive. That sounds more like a marriage/relationship goal than a future ambition. To have such a dream above her individual ambition is to accept that she lacks the guts to be great all by herself and is subject to the dream of a man. It is challenging that most women that end up as first ladies are those who have strong minds and can be called achievers. For instance, Michelle Obama, the former first lady of the United States of America is a lawyer, a university administrator and a writer. The current first lady of Nigeria, Aisha Buhari is also an author, a cosmetologist and a beauty therapist. To keep listing women who occupy or have occupied this position is to keep mentioning women who have done well for themselves.

With the rate of cybercrime especially internet fraud which many Nigerian youths now even back up with rituals, one cannot but wonder where we are headed. It is a sad fact that it is the females that mostly fall victim of these ritual acts by these desperate youths. One can argue that the dependence mentality of many ladies is the main reason they end up as victims. Many ladies have grown to accept that a man is supposed to be responsible for their lives and they play a lesser role in managing their own finances. Whenever such ladies see a man around them, covetousness takes its toil and they become too demanding. While the covetousness of some ladies is not a justification for fraudulent acts by many young men in our society, it is a reason that lies in the background as many are oblivious of it.

It is time we taught our girls to dream of a life of greatness even outside marriage. Despite marriage and relationships being an integral part of their lives, they should not live their lives with the thought that merely marrying a great man would justify their existence. Everyone has the opportunity to be what they want to be with the right conditions fulfilled. The first condition however is to admit that they are the architects of their own fortune.

When next you see a girl that is being overly dependent on men around or anyone else for a sense of belonging, challenge her to brace up and take charge of her life! Before you become a first lady, be the type of woman that has ambitions and can achieve them. Although it might not be your aim, it’s most certain that you’ll attract a great man better that way.